I’m honestly really sad about Corde wanting to go to high school next year. Part of it is her grades. She’s a B/C student and feels like she can’t aspire to anything better. I have a feeling reliance on grades will only hold her back and make her that much less ready for college, if she decides to go. But there are other factors in all of that. I just feel like she could get so much better of an education at home.
For starters, no one is teaching her how to write, and I mean properly write. I’ve heard this complaint from a lot of high school students entering college. No one taught them the proper way to write a research paper. No one showed them how to craft a properly supported argument. They struggle when they get to college because they don’t know how to do these things. I can honestly say that was the hardest part about peer editing in college, I felt like I had to make a lot of comments and edits. Actually, that’s not true. I had a wonderful time in my literature class, but my history class it felt like I was working with a lot of people that didn’t know how to write.
And then there’s other aspects of education. Corde is tracked into a specific plan for next year. While she’s not doing great in math (a solid B student, so not horrible), she’s getting through the material quickly. If she was homeschooled she could advance through the material and get “back on track” that much quicker. There’s no reason she couldn’t be through Algebra 1 right now if she just applied herself. We could have easily gotten through it this summer, but what’s the point if she’s not going to be able to advance to the next level next year in school? She can’t move forward at her pace. She has to move at the pace everyone else sets for her.
Let’s not forget her woes in science and history. Those classes are all about memorizing facts, something she’s really struggling with. I know college will be full of that. She may not have to remember names and dates in science, but she is going to have to remember things like the laws of physics, or the parts of a cell. In history it’ll be names and dates. However, I could teach her to study those things and improve her skills. Going to school she had a study block, which was where she did all her work. None of her work came home, so she didn’t study, and because she didn’t study, she didn’t do well in her classes. These are things we could easily improve upon with homeschooling.
However, she doesn’t want to homeschool. It’s not about the high school experience. It’s not even because she’s really interested in the things she’ll learn in tech school. She’s really only interested in going to high school to be with her friends. She said, “You don’t understand, Mom. Once you no longer go to school with kids they don’t have time for you anymore.” I hate to say it, but there’s every chance her friends won’t have time for her in high school either. She may choose a different vocational career than them, or they may all choose the same thing to be together, which is the wrong way to choose something. There’s every chance she and her friends will drift apart anyway.
Going to school just for her friends isn’t a good answer in my opinion. If she works hard to maintain her friendships, she won’t have to worry about losing her friends when they go to different schools. They’ll make other friends, I’m sure, but she’ll still be able to hang out with her friends after school. She’ll have even more time because she won’t have homework to worry about.
Still, I know I can’t change her mind, so we’re going to see how it goes. I think it would be different if we had a car and could get her to homeschooling events. That’s going to be a while in coming though, so we’re doing the best we can. Maybe she’ll decide she wants to homeschool her academics and we can work something out with the school for that. We may have a compromise yet.