We finally did it. We’re in a financial position where we can give the kids an allowance. True, it takes away from other things we could be getting, but I feel that teaching the kids how to manage their money is a much better life lesson than many of the things we could have afforded with that money.
See, Oz and I came from very different backgrounds when it comes to managing our finances. Oz had no experience until he was out on his own, where he often spent more money than he should, which got him into financial trouble. I was the extreme opposite. I was so worried about not having enough to cover my bills that I never spent money if I could at all help it. That wasn’t so much childhood that taught me that, because I had an allowance and would save for things, but my ex-husband and I had a lot of financial struggles, which taught me to be a little stingy with my money.
The kids aren’t getting a lot of money. Luca gets $3 every week, so that only sets us back about $12 every month. Sander gets $4, Beekee $5, and Corde $7. That all comes out to $76 every month, which could make a nice little budget for science experiments, art supplies, and other fun stuff for the kids, but this is teaching them something valuable. They’re learning what money is worth and how to make decisions on where they want to spend it.
Just today the kids decided to make their first purchase. We had a binge cleaning day and decided we were going to take a walk to pick up the missing ingredients to our shepherd’s pie at the local grocery store. We told the kids if they brought money we could stop and get some cookies at the dollar store. They’re not fantastic cookies and they’re not brand name, but the kids wanted us to buy them cookies for their job well done, which was fine, but they each wanted their own thing of cookies, so that’s when telling them to use their allowance came in.
Corde bought more than just cookies. She also got some headphones (a good value since she kills her headphones so quickly anyway, it doesn’t make sense to get her more expensive ones) and some tacks to put stuff up on her wall. When the younger three checked out, their purchases came to a dollar even. Corde asked why hers involved spending some change. That lead to a discussion about tax, and how sales tax doesn’t apply to anything you can eat. That was another learning moment. Things don’t cost what they say they do on the shelf. Unless you can eat it or wear it, it’s taxable.
This is already turning into a good experience for the kids. Luca is already proving to be a real saver, having collected all sorts of money between the tooth fairy (yeah, we let them believe, though I think they’re too smart and figured it out) and birthday money. None of that money was spent, save the dollar today. Sander has been pretty thrifty too. Beekee was talking about spending his five and how he would get change from his purchase, though he decided on spending the one from the tooth fairy instead. They’re learning to manage their money. They also learned that we weren’t going to let them spend money they didn’t have with them, so if they want to buy extra stuff next time, they should bring more money. Luca was fine with only getting cookies, but Sander wanted to get a pair of headphones, which he couldn’t buy, but maybe next time. The store is walking distance from the house, so I don’t see a reason why we can’t stop in from time to time.
Now, we’re not going to go all crazy and tell them they can’t have things unless they buy them. We’re still going to go out of our way to provide cool experiences for them, but if they want something that’s not on our shopping list, they need to wait until Christmas or their birthday, or they need to spend their own money on it.
We’re also not giving them their money for nothing. They’ve got to do chores around the house in order to earn their wages. Luca has to feed the dog and clear the dishes from the table. Beekee then does those dishes. Sander (by choice) is in charge of cleaning the bathroom. He loves that chore, though I can’t imagine why. I always hate cleaning the bathroom, but if it makes him happy, more power to him. Plus, it’s something he only has to do once a week, even though it’s more work than the rest of the chores. Corde has the most to do. She’s responsible for keeping the kitchen clean. That means wiping down the table and counters, sweeping and mopping the floor, and taking out the trash and the recycling. We want them to learn that you don’t just get money for doing nothing, you have to earn it. Oz works to earn the money we get every month. When I was working I was making my own income. They have to earn theirs too, because that’s how life works. You don’t just get money for no reason, you have to earn it.
This is a new experience for them, one I wish we’d started doing earlier. It’s going to teach them a whole new level of responsibility. If they save up to $20 they can open their own bank accounts, which is good for whatever money they want to save. Luca has that much now, but he’s pretty partial to keeping his money in the little jar on my desk. They can make that decision when they want, and I think we’re going to be encouraging them to put away at least a dollar of their money into savings, maybe more for Corde because she’s got less time to build up a savings. Then again, she can get a job of her own before long, so that’s something too.
They’re already starting to start talking about what they want to spend their money on, which is great. Beekee wants to get new games for his DS. Sander is saving to replace his DS (which he dropped in the Charles River on the 4th of July). Luca wants to spend his money on getting games we can play together. I have no idea what Corde wants to spend her money on, but she’s a teen and will definitely have reasons to spend money, like at the mall with her friends, or a trip out to the movies. She can save some of it for spending money at Rainbow Grand Assembly or Rainbow Camp next year too.
Overall I’m excited for this. The kids will be able to make some more decisions for themselves and have a whole new level of freedom. They no longer have to ask our permission to get things they want, though we’ll definitely be there to advise them on their investments. The ultimate decision is theirs.