I have to admit, I’ve been a little worried about my kids and their interests. So many homeschooled and unschooled kids are doing incredible things. They’ve got incredible interests and they really invest themselves in what they’re into. It’s almost like they know what they want to be when they grow up.
My kids aren’t like that. They don’t really play with LEGOs and build things very often. They only build their own houses in Minecraft. I can’t get them to do all the cool, creative things other kids do. They’ve got no interest in playing music. They really don’t want to do anything but play video games and watch Minecraft videos on Amazon. All in all, their interests seem like they’re not all that diverse.
For Luca, I’m not really worried about that. Luca is only five and is primarily interested in coloring, playing with toys, and having tea parties. This is no big deal. It’s age appropriate for Luca to have no special interests or any leaning towards what he’ll do as a grown up. Crazy ideas are normal at that age. Luca’s current dream job is to make teddy bears, which is a possibility when he grows up, but we’ll start with teaching him how to sew. If he hates that, he’s never going to make it as a teddy bear maker.
I know Corde, the closest to being out of the house and on to the real world, is having problems with this herself. She’s going to a STEM oriented program at a local community college right now, which she doesn’t hate, but she doesn’t want to be doing any of that as a career. Her discovery is 3D printing is hard, coding makes her head hurt, and engineering isn’t her thing. It’s not a total loss. She’s having a good time with it in spite of it not being her thing, but she knows it’s not going to be her future. At least she tried it and now knows she can rule out engineering jobs in her future. I just wish she had more of an idea of what she does want to do.
Of course, I can’t truly say that. Corde’s got thoughts of possibly wanting to be a detective or a lawyer. She’s been toying with the idea of being a chef for years. She hasn’t really pursued the idea of cooking at home, though she’s got an opportunity to do it through the local voc/tech. It’s something, and she really should have some direction in her life, given she’s so close to being out in the world.
But what about Beekee and Sander? They need to have some direction in life too. I mean, they’re both still young and have time to figure out what they want to do with their lives, but it’s better they at least have something they’re passionate about. If nothing else, it’d be nice if they had some things they wanted to try.
So I finally broke down and asked them today, what would they like to do when they grow up. If I knew that much I could help guide them to their passions. We could get on board with the unschooling thing again because we’d have somewhere to start. They’d do something other than play Minecraft all day and watch movies. I mean, I know that’s part of deschooling, but the state is going to want to see they’re doing something educational with their time.
Beekee was the first one to respond. First he said he wanted to make mods for Minecraft. I told him that was a great goal, but what if he couldn’t make a living that way? He might want to have another plan for his future, just in case modding Minecraft turns out to not be profitable. He settled upon making a new game console, preferably one that could play the games of more than one system on it. Then he got into talking about how he’d like to get into stuff that falls under the heading of “electronics”. Well, that’s definitely a direction he could go. Electrical engineering is totally a job option for him when he gets older, and not a bad choice when it comes to income either.
Sander’s first thought was he wanted to make video games. He decided that might be hard and might not be as fun as it seems, so if he doesn’t like making video games he wants to be “a worker”. When I asked what that meant, the answer was someone who builds things, like houses. I can totally see Sander getting into that when he’s older. He’s a sturdy, strong kid that likes doing physical things. I can see him having the creativity to make video games too, but right now I think that takes a level of patience he’s yet to master. He has a lot more patience with physical, hands-on stuff. That may just be his age, but it may also be what he’s cut out to do in life. He’s talked about building houses on and off for the past couple of years, so maybe this really is a passion of his.
These are things we can work on now, and I feel pretty good about that. We can start working on getting the kids started with electronics. We can do a little bit of programming, if I can find some stuff that’s age appropriate. And we can definitely start working on some wood crafting projects. I work at a home improvement store. I’m sure we can come up with something!
I have to say, I feel a lot better about my parenting skills. I think it was just they weren’t ready to think about it. I’d asked several times and they never really were interested in thinking about it and whenever I brought up ideas, they’d brush it off and go back to playing. Now it looks like we’ve got some good places to start. They’re finally ready to get into some pretty cool stuff.
So, we may not know what they want to be when they grow up, but at least we’ve got some ideas to start with. Maybe they’ll love what they’ve chosen as life aspirations now. Maybe they’ll try it and hate it. Whatever it is, at least I’ve got kids that are starting to get passionate about things. We’re back on the unschool train for real!