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Dear parents, you need to control your kids. Sincerely, non-parents

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The Matt Walsh Blog

To the fan I lost yesterday:

I don’t owe you an explanation, but I thought I’d offer one anyway. I do this more for your sake than mine. You see, maybe, as you later suggested, I was in a bad mood. Maybe I could have been a bit more polite about it. Maybe I’m more sensitive to it now that I have kids. Maybe I’m just sick of hearing these comments about parents. Maybe I know that my wife has to take the twins with her when she goes grocery shopping sometimes, so she could easily be on the receiving end of your sort of bullying. Maybe I took it personally.

Whatever the case, there I was, walking down the aisles of the grocery store looking for the ingredients for a new chili recipe I wanted to try. I heard the kid screaming from a distance; the whole store heard…

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Author: Fox

With four kids in the house, who has time for much? Well, we're trying to make it work, trying to get as close to our unschooling roots as we can while state restrictions and family pressures try to stand in our way. Every day is a new adventure.

8 thoughts on “Dear parents, you need to control your kids. Sincerely, non-parents

  1. Aeesome! Glad you posted this. Thanks. I shared o n facebook and think everyine shoukd read this

  2. Thanks for sharing it, it was a good read that I most definitely agree with (and made me laugh a few times; always a bonus).

  3. You may enjoy a blog I wrote about parents who are too afraid to instill shame into their children. I, too, enjoyed your reblogging the story above. Thanks! http://freedomcocktail.wordpress.com/2013/03/20/lack-of-shame-pathway-to-other-ills/

    • I’ll have to check it out. Shame isn’t much in our philosophy, but I’m sure it would be an interesting read.

      • I had that same discussion with another mom and we realized the definition of ‘shame’ that she was thinking was more Biblically-based v. the way I used it which had much more to do with the instillation of a ‘conscience.’ Anyway, would love your thoughts on it if you get a chance. Take care!

      • It looks like you believe in instilling kids with a cause and effect example. If you do this, that will happen. If you, to use the Occupy Together campaign as an example, buy from corporations, the corporations will have your money and you won’t, so who is the real idiot?

        But what you’re talking about can be done without shame. The kid comes home from school with a bad note from the teacher, help them learn what is expected next time, or help them find the problem causing the behavior or struggle and fix it.

        My kids really never have to worry about disappointing me. I try to avoid shame and be as encouraging as possible. At the same time, I don’t lie to them. I identify their struggles and challenges with them and help them find ways to overcome. The goal is to create problem solvers, and kids who are prepared to face the negative reactions they get from going against the grain.

        After all, if I were to use shame, I might have a boy who is forced to feel bad about enjoying his nails being painted or wearing his sister’s old clothes because they are more comfortable. He would lose so much of what makes him unique, vibrant, and special. There’s no reason for that when there are other ways to raise a child to be motivated and have a drive to be successful.

        Then again, what does peer influence have on the smart, driven kids in classrooms? Peer influence and feeling ashamed of being smart and poor ended with me dropping out of school, and as much as I was ashamed of that, I would much rather that than be smart and driven back then.

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